I know I've talked about this before on my AOL journal, but I feel the need to talk about it again here, only because someone asked me about it today. I must get this off my chest again or I may just scream.
Why do people feel the need to ask me about having kids? Why do they feel the need to remind me of the "biological clock?" Why can't they just mind there own damn business?
For those idiots out there who insist on asking me...no, my husband & I are not able to have kids. Yes, we are perfectly happy without having any, whether they were our own or via a surrogate or adoption. We like our lives the way they are & enjoy the freedom our childless lives provide us. I am a month shy of 41 & have no intention of having kids now. If you had asked me 15 or 20 years ago about having kids, I would've gladly had one (or more), but the powers that be had other plans. If you had asked me then about going through all those expensive & sometimes painful fertility treatments without having to worry about the cost, etc, I probably would've accepted. But that was then & this is now.
Yes, I worry about who is going to take care of me when I'm too old and/or sick to take care of myself...who's going to take care of my earthly remains when it's my time to go...but I'm not, I repeat NOT going to bring a child into this world for that sole purpose. No, I'm not being selfish for whatever reasons you think I am. Wouldn't it be selfish to bring a child into the world only for him/her to play nurse & undertaker at some point? When I asked someone close to me about the meaning of life, she replied, "to have children." I personally don't find that statement very fair. Does that mean then, that my life has no meaning because I am unable to have kids & don't want them anymore? Does it make me less of a woman?
Please don't get me wrong here, gang. I applaud all of you parents out there, whether biological or adoptive! It's just not for me & after all the tests were done, it just was never meant to be.
Sorry about the rant & thanks for listening y'all.....................
PS Check out my sidebar every once in a while.....I'll be posting polls there! I already did one about pets, but I'm going to repost it since only 1 person answered it (thank you whoever you were!).
